Happy April Fool’s Day! With foolishness in mind and Julie’s reflection in the last blog entry about the ‘madness’ of love at first sight, my thoughts turned to the crazy things that people do in the name of love.
What’s the most foolish thing that you have ever done? Mine was moving in with a man I’d known for less than a handful of days. After ten years together, married almost nine of those, it might not seem so crazy – although I’m sure we both have days when we wonder why on earth we did it! Yet at the time, everyone around me thought I was mad and one or two of those closest to me were so upset that they barely spoke to me in the weeks and months afterwards.
It all worked out in the end though and, even if it hadn’t, I wouldn’t have had the lasting reminder of a tattoo of an ex somewhere on my body. That’s a modern phenomenon as a symbol of love and perhaps, arguably, another foolish act of love should it ultimately fade and burn. Of course, most of us don’t fall in love thinking it will fail, so perhaps having the light of your life’s name tattooed on your body is not so crazy after all. People like Katie Price have managed to disguise their exes’ names with clever designs, which are all well and good, but perhaps with her track record she will stick to something less indelible now…
The funniest example of ‘love’ tattoos I ever saw was in a prison documentary about a guy who had five children by four different women, during his brief spells of freedom. Each time he got a new partner her name was tattooed on his left arm and the children’s names on his right arm. When the relationships broke down, the children’s names stayed put, but the partner’s name just got a tattooed line drawn through it and the new name written underneath! Perhaps he could have found a reasonably popular name and just kept going out with Alisons or Janes to save himself the bother? In researching this article, though, I found out that the latest craze is to have a tattoo of your lover’s face etched on your body, rather than their name, but space for the likes of that luckless prison inmate would surely run out much more quickly!
So come on, tell us, what’s the craziest, most irrational or foolish thing you’ve ever done for love? If you’ve never been done anything that might seem like madness in the name of romance and are looking for some inspiration, check out this list of potentially foolish things done for ‘love’ adapted from the website www.today.com:
- Meet Kelly Summers who posted 62 You Tube videos of herself crying in a ‘diary of heartbreak’ to share with everyone when she found out her boyfriend had another lover. Embarrassing in the future for the whole world to know your business? I’d say so! Yet it made her ex Keith realise how much he loved her, so perhaps not…
- James Doyan advertised his divorced 63 year old mum, Sandy Firth, on eBay as he was so worried about her being lonely. His starting price? One pound, but sadly the advert was pulled for violating the site’s policy on the sale of human body parts!
- Mums can be just as embarrassing as sons though, as Colby Brin discovered when his mother, Geri, set up the dating site ‘Date My Single Kid’. The business has gone from strength to strength and Colby now happily admits that ‘Mum knows best’.
- What about Patrick Moberg, who saw the girl of his dreams on a subway train? Anyone got a James Blunt song playing in their head now? Unlike James in the song, Patrick took some decisive action, set up a website with a sketch of himself and this dream girl, including a big arrow pointing to his head with a sign saying ‘not insane’! Amazingly it worked and the two are now in touch so, insane or not, perhaps not so foolish after all.
- Then there is Charles E. Phillips, former president of Oracle, what was his act of foolishness? Having an affair with a woman who, once scorned, got revenge on a thirty foot high scale. After an eight year fling with lover, YaVaughnie Wilkins, Charles decided to reconcile fully with his wife Karen. Scorned YaVaughnie not only set up a website featuring hers and Charles’ romantic photos and love notes, but hired billboards in San Francisco, Atlanta and Time Square in NY to let the world know of his deceit and take her revenge.
Doing crazy things for love can sometimes work out and sometimes end up leaving you feeling not just foolish but perhaps poorer to boot, as the examples above demonstrate. Ultimately though, love has the power to make us all act out of character and do things the world might consider crazy, but which seem right to us. It’s no new thing after all, Edward VIII gave up his kingdom for the love of Wallis Simpson, and where would us romantic writers get our inspiration without it?!